As a mother, there is never a time when you don’t want to do what is best for your child. This will definitely hold true during the divorce process.
Before we go any further, remember this: The court will always do whatever is in the best interest of your child. This holds true with regard to all aspects of the divorce, especially child custody.
Sole custody is not nearly as common as joint custody, however, it does come into play every now and again.
With sole custody, one parent gains exclusive physical and legal custody of the child. This is in contrast to joint custody in which both parents share physical and/or legal custody.
What you need to know
First and foremost, you need to understand that there is nothing more important than doing what is best for your child. So, unless you fully believe that sole custody is the right answer, you will want to think twice about fighting for this. You may soon realize that your child will be better off with a joint custody agreement in place.
Here are a few points to keep in mind:
- The primary benefit of sole custody is the ability to make decisions on your own. With this, you don’t have to ask the other parent for input regarding important decisions, such as those associated with health care and education.
- Your ex-husband may be granted visitation rights. Although you have received sole custody, your husband may still be able to visit with the child based on the schedule outlined by the court.
- You’ll need permission to relocate. If you’re interested in relocating with your child, you’ll need to get the permission of the court. This could have a negative impact on your ex-husband's ability to visit with the child.
You will always do whatever you can to protect your child. In the event of a divorce, this may mean fighting for sole custody.
If you have a reason for wanting sole custody, such as if your former husband has a history of child abuse or alcoholism, it’s important to have a plan in place for conveying your message to the court.